Parenting with Positivity: Nurturing Happy and Confident Children

Let me tell you a tale about how Parenting with Positivity changed a dumb youngster into a brilliant scientist.

The story is told that one day, as a small child, Thomas Edison came home from school and gave a paper to his mother. He said, “Mom, my teacher gave this paper to me and told me only you were to read it. What does it say?”

As she read the letter to her child, her eyes welled up with tears: “Your son is a genius.” This school is too small for him and lacks qualified teachers. Please educate him on your own.”

Edison became one of the greatest inventors of the century, many years after his mother died. He discovered the folded note from his former teacher while browsing through a cupboard. He opened it and discovered the genuine message printed on the letter: “Your son is mentally deficient.” We are no longer allowing him to attend our school. He is expelled.”

Edison then wrote in his diary, “Thomas A. Edison was a mentally deficient child whose mother turned him into the genius of the century.”

As parents, we aspire to raise happy, confident, and well-adjusted children. Parenting with positivity is strategy for that aims to enhance a child’s confidence and overall development.

Let’s dive in and understand how Parenting with Positivity helps to build a strong parent- child connection.

It involves several key steps. Here’s how you can do it:

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Hug each other on a daily basis – As your child gets older, they may be hesitant to hug their parents because it is no longer considered cool. Hugging, on the other hand, is beneficial to your health and functions as a natural stress reliever.

According to psychologists, the older you get, the more physically vulnerable you become; therefore, interaction becomes increasingly necessary for optimum health. It also serves as a visual reminder for your kids that they are not alone.

Turn off technology during interactions – It can be difficult to disconnect from technology when you are always connected to it. It is excellent practice to switch off your music when driving with family so that you can have a healthy discussion which can lead to make a strong bonding.

Connect before transitions or large Decision -Making – Transition may be difficult, especially during the adolescent years, when your child is figuring out who they are and what type of life they want to live. Don’t be afraid to reach out to your child and let them know you care. Give them guidance and any insights you believe will be beneficial to them.

Encourage emotions instead of shutting them Out – Emotions can be messy, but it’s critical to be sensitive to one another’s sentiments. Do not dismiss them easily, especially during arguments.

It is difficult when you are deeply touched by a circumstance, but remember that a healthy relationship is built on how we share our emotions.

Listen to understand, not to react – Instead of reacting quickly, take the time to listen and comprehend, even if you completely disagree with their behavior or ideas. If you choose to yell at them, you may build even more resentment between the two of you. As a result, communication may suffer since your child may refuse to speak to you.
Learn to reconcile your differences by extending your perspective and working together to find a solution that benefits both of you.

Respect boundaries – If you want to have a good relationship with your child, respect their boundaries. This can be difficult for you since your child wants more privacy and freedom, but positive parenting includes giving your child opportunities to make mistakes and learn from them.

Catch your child in the act of doing rights – Teenagers often struggle with their self-confidence. It’s important to recognize that peer pressure can ruin your child’s self-esteem. Refrain from expressing harsh criticism and negativity; instead, focus on the deeds your child is doing right and praise them for those actions. Not only will it show that you have been paying attention to them, but this will also help boost their self-esteem.

Stop comparing your kids – Actually, the cause is noble because the parent just want to fix their child. But unfortunately, this noble cause, causes more harm than good. So, what should you do. If you are thinking I’m going to ask you to stop comparing your child to other people, you would be absolutely right and wrong. Actually needs to be done is ‘change the way you do it’. Technically comparing yourself to others is very important. You learn the most from others. You can make better goals by comparing yourself to others.

If you are living in a society comparison WILL happen there is no escaping it. And it should happen. There’s no need to escape it. You can start with following changes.

  1. First, shift from comparing through comments to comparison through discussions
  2. When you bring up other people, instead of focusing on those people, focus on the message and the reason underneath.
  3. The golden rule – if you are about to compare your child with someone in 1 or 2 lines, Avoid it.

Note – We just can’t another person by magic. We need reasons and practices to make changes in personality and our situations.

Allow your child to question everything–  Children are inquisitive and have a lot of questions. They have a natural appetite for information and actively explore the world by asking questions to better understand it and fulfill their curiosity. Asking questions fosters critical thinking, problem-solving abilities, and the ability to link disparate concepts. When children are encouraged to ask questions and explore their curiosity, they gain confidence in their abilities to seek knowledge on their own. Always respond to their questions since it indicates that you are paying attention to them, and it also helps to establish a relationship between the two of you.

A word from buddyParenting

First and foremost we put ourselves and our children in a better position to succeed. The research is very clear about positivity increasing productivity and this is any aspect of life. That’s something you get to provide for your own kids through your positive parenting. It also strengthens the very fabric of our society and I believe that the core element of any healthy, productive society is the family. Positive parenting creates an environment and the culture within that family that ripples from out there and affects communities and states and our entire global community. That’s why it’s so important. The Bottom line is we can make our globe better If we inculcate our parenting with positivity in our kids.

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